Managing Emotions with Self-Management Skills and Resources
Self-management helps students recognise how different situations influence their behaviour, emotions and judgments enabling them to respond in constructive ways. These resources will support your students in understanding the importance of self-management.
What is Self-Management?
Self-management builds on from social awareness. It helps students recognise how different situations influence their behaviour, emotions and judgments. This recognition allows children to respond in constructive ways and manage emotions in demanding situations.
Study skills is another important area of self-management. This includes time management, organisation, and planning. Like with many skills these need to be developed over time. Most young children will not arrive in your classroom with effective study skills.
Characteristics of Self-Management
Students prepared to self-manage are self-motivated, organised and show perseverance. The characteristics, which will exhibit in different ways depending on their age and experiences, include:
- Manage and control emotions, thoughts, and behaviour in different situations
- Understand why they feel the way they do
- Use appropriate strategies for impulse control and regulating emotions
- Promote perseverance in personal and academic life
- Uses stress management techniques, such as mindfulness
- Motivating themselves to persevere in overcoming challenges
- Understand they need time and motivation to accomplish goals and challenges
- Understand that failure or mistakes are a chance to learn and improve
- Set goals, both personal and academic, and work towards them
- Assess where they are at and create new targets
- Develop organisational skills and stick to routines
Key Benefits of Self-Management
There are many great reasons for working on self-management skills and strategies.
- Improved confidence
- Increased motivation and enthusiasm
- Increased self-efficacy when setting and achieving goals
- Improved academic performance
- Improved study skills
- Having pride and confidence in achievements
- Improved self-esteem and self-worth
- Understanding that meeting goals and challenges is not always easy
Self-Management Teaching Resources
In this section, you will find resources to support your students in understanding the importance of self-management skills. You will find a list of books with resources, short videos, online resources and reading-related questions.
Managing Emotions Picture Books
This collection of books illustrates characters negotiating their emotions, thoughts and actions, using coping strategies during stressful situations and getting personal and academic goals. You can click on the book cover for a synopsis of the book and related online resources. After the list, there is a list of reading questions to use during read-aloud sessions.
Self-Management Discussion Questions
- What strategies do you use to self-manage your emotions or behaviour?
- What makes it difficult for you (or others) to self-manage?
- How could self-management have a positive impact on your life?
- How can you help others manage their behaviour or emotions?
- Why do you think [character] struggled to control their emotions?
- If [character] had managed their emotions/behaviour who do you think the outcome would have been?
- What could [character] do to manage their emotions/behaviour?
- Why was it important that [character] persevered during [task/event]?
- What strategies could [character] have used to manage their stress?
- How do you think [character] managed to overcome their challenges?
- Do you think it was appropriate for [character] to get angry? What would have been a better strategy?
- Why do you think [character] got so angry/jealous/upset?
- What would be a good strategy to help [character] deal with their emotions?
- What could [character] learn from their mistakes?
Self-Management Resources Online
- Childline: Signs That Show You’re Getting Angry
- Healthy Families Beyond Blue: What Emotions Matter
- Healthy Families Beyond Blue: Managing Emotions
- Kids Help Line: Helping kids identify and express feelings
- NHS: Improving Children’s Behaviour – Information for Parents / Carers
- The Washington Post: Schools are teaching kids empathy and self-control. It helps at home, too
- Education World: Getting Emotional: Learning About Feelings
- Kids Health: Feelings Teacher’s Guide
- Landmark Teaching Strategies: Self-management
- Learning to Give: Angry Feeling Lessons Plans
- NHS Trust: Anxiety Classroom Resources
- Northern Ireland Curriculum: Sometimes I Feel Unit
- Northern Ireland Curriculum: How Do I Feel? Unit
- Scholastic: Learning about Emotions
- Teaching Ideas: 18 Feelings cards with photographs
- Transforming Education: Self-Management Toolkit
Managing Emotions Videos
These short videos can be used as discussion starters for talking about self-management. Watch the videos before playing them to your students. Some of them are simple while others are more complex or abstract.
Let me know how you support your student’s self-management skills in the comments below. You can find a round-up of picture books that illustrate managing emotions in the post 34 Children’s Books on Self-Management.
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